Our More Interesting Version of ‘Meet The Staff.’

Every month you will meet one of the office staff here at Matrix Home Health Care Specialists and Grace Homes.  This month it happens to be me.  When I was coming up with these questions, I loved them.  When I had to sit down and actually put my answer on paper, I have to admit some were a little harder than I wanted them to be. Being the end of the year, this felt appropriate.  We should all take the time to write down some lessons we have learned over the past year.  You think you know the lesson and have taken it to heart, but I guarantee when you to go write it down you have to give it some contemplation to articulate it properly. Writing it down helps me to understand it fully.  With that said I appreciate the staff who has already done these and look forward to the rest of the staff’s throughout 2019. Happy New Year!


1. Where were you born?

McAlester, Ok.


2. How did you find Matrix?

I used to work for Tandem Strength & Balance, and we worked with lots of Homecare companies around the twin cities.  I had spoken to Karen (the owner of Matrix) many times on the phone as she also did some case managing for a few of our clients. She was so busy that I had never laid eyes on her.  I got to know her husband Bruce at the marketing meetings around town that we were involved in, but I still had never seen Karen.  I think it went on for a year like this until one day I finally saw her at a leading age convention. I felt like I was meeting someone famous or the revealing of the wizard of OZ. The first thing I said to her is “you are real, I was starting to think you were a front and actually many people were doing what we were being told Karen was doing.”  She laughed, sized me up and thankfully decided to be my friend despite the low level crazy I am confident she was picking up on.
What I initially thought was the worst thing that could ever happen to me, losing my job in the early part of 2018, turned out to be one of the best kick in the pants I have ever had by the universe. Not knowing what I was going to do and after almost applying to many jobs that I really did not want or wasn’t a good fit I decided to ask myself a question. Who do I want to work for? The first people that popped in my head were Bruce and Karen.  I immediately opened my laptop and wrote them a letter.  The rest is history.


3. What gets you out of bed in the morning?

I go to sleep excited for the new day every night so it really doesn’t take that much to get me up.


4. What is the most recent app you downloaded and why?

Nerd Wallet to add to the other 10 money apps I already have to help me keep my finances in order.  It has a little different approach which made me want to give it a try.  I am on the constant quest for the app that slaps your hand as your pulling your debit card from your wallet when you are about to buy some new clothes. When I find it I may finally have financial peace.


5. What is something few people know about you?

I like old food. 3-day old pizza, stale chips or cookies,  and flat coke.  Bring it!


6. Who inspires you?

Marianne Williamson, Brene’ Brown, Reba McEntire,  and of course Oprah. My list goes on and on. I love to be inspired and I am inspired quite easily.  A Course In Miracles says to think of the person that you think has achieved the most and that person has achieved only a fraction of what each and every one of us is capable of.


7. What is your greatest fear?

I want love from someone that can never be shaken no matter what from someone besides family.  So never receiving that ever would be my biggest fear.


8. What is something you learned last week?

I learned that my gut is always right. I need to start listening to it. I’ve spent 42 years not only ignoring it but blatantly defying it.  This has to end and I just have to trust.


9. What three words would you use to describe Matrix?

compassionate, integrity, inclusive


10. What advice would you give your 13-year-old self?

To drop the plan you have set for your life and learn to go with the flow. You have no idea what is going to happen so just quit trying to figure it out.


11. What is success to you?

Having a job, being able to pay your bills, leaving people happier than they were before they saw you, understanding obligations to others are not transactional in nature but just the right thing to do.


12. At what age did you become an adult?

As I continue in my 42nd year of childhood I am unable to provide an answer at this time.  I’ll keep you posted.


13. What do you like most about matrix?

That everyone does care about what we are doing.


14. If you had to eat one meal for the rest of your life every day what would it be?

Eating cake and ice cream with a side of pizza and some ice water would make me very happy.


15. What is your motto or personal mantra?

My goal in life has always been I’m want to meet everyone on the planet.   I could never put into words how I felt about this and why it was important, and then I heard Patty Griffin’s song “No Bad News,” and I stopped in my tracks.  She captured what I was trying to say dead on, and now it has become my personal motto.  I’m going to give you the whole bridge here, but the last two lines are really the essence.

“I’m gonna find me a man, love him so well, love him so strong, love him so slow
We’re gonna go way beyond the walls of this fortress
And we won’t be afraid, we won’t be afraid, and though the darkness may come our way
We won’t be afraid to be alive anymore
And we’ll grow kindness in our hearts for all the strangers among us
Till there are no strangers anymore”   ~ Patty Griffin


16. You’re happiest when…

I’m singing for an audience and/or spending time with Quinn.


17. What is an ability you wish you had?

To turn angry, fighting people into calm listeners.  I’d start with myself.


18. What are your hopes for the senior care industry?

That more compassionate caring people would become caregivers and that the majority of folks realized how vital this kind of work is. I would love to see a culture shift in America where we held our elders in high regard and realized that the experiences they have lived through and the wisdom they hold as a result is priceless to humanity. They are first had resources we should be utilizing. We should find a way to integrate them into society instead of institutionalizing them in secluded, lonely facilities.


19. If you could meet anyone, living or dead, who would it be and why?

Oprah and Isbell Staples, my deceased grandmother.  We had such good conversations, and I think this pic shows that perfectly.  I talked all the time, and my grandmother always listened and was still kind to me. She died when she was way too young.  I was only 16 and to have another day, lunch, dinner, 15 minutes with her would be incredible.

Rhett Murdaugh of Matrix Home Health Care Specialists and his Granny Sweetie Pie.

Rhett and his Granny having conversation during some downtime at a horse show. I talked a lot and she referred to me as her lil’ magpie.


20. What was the last experience that has made you a stronger person?

Falling off the wagon while in recovery.  The lesson:  The person I lie to the most is myself.  Figuring out how to stop doing that will be my 2nd lease on life and I am determined to do so


That is our third edition of “Stuck in the elevator.”  Next month we will have the Q&A with our RN Ngozi Ohaegbulem.  Thanks for reading and if you are thinking you might want to be a part of this team check out the details below?


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  • Apply by submitting an application via fax:  952-525-0506 Attn: HR Manager




Please direct any specific inquiries to Elizabeth, our HR Manager,  by calling 952-525-0505



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